Marriage is more than just being about ourselves; there are many others that we may not see that depend on us and our spouse sticking it out together. It’s for this reason Ken looks at the forgotten option of how to stay together when your marriage is in trouble or even when you believe it is ‘on the rocks’ and all love has been lost. There are ways to re-establish the values that worked for many generations before us, and to have the faithfulness and confidence in your marriage today that were considered the norm of the past.

The Forgotten Option

Is a guide for individuals navigating troubled marriages, emphasizing the profound impact of commitment on personal well-being and the often unseen network of individuals dependent on a strong marital foundation.

Notes from the Author

1. ‘Just remember that divorce is not the end that people say it is.  In most cases it is a poor choice to make, but depending on the choices you make afterwards it is redeemable.’
(On Divorce – pg. 297)

2. ‘If they knew what it was that they were bringing upon themselves, when in frustration they started to destroy the tie that binds, I hope they would stop their collision course with heartbreak. . . take a rest until the true answer arrives.  And if they knew how much they would regret later on in life their decision to leave a marriage, I hope there would be more hearts willing to stay and be changed in the present moment.’
(Love – pg. 88)

3. ‘If we can agree that our children can exhibit the same behavior that marriage counselors would find difficult to condone in a marriage, why then would we keep a son or a daughter, but abandon a spouse for the same issues?  “It’s different,” I hear people say.  What?  Why?
(Our Need To Be Responsible – pg. 246)

4. ‘It is interesting that most people that haven’t been through divorce and the loss of a marriage think that both people wanted out.  It appears from the outside that there is such a thing as an amicable divorce most of the time, but these conditions are rare.  It is more commonly true than not, that for every person that left a marriage there is one that didn’t want them to go.’
(Love – pg. 83)

5. ‘If you took a man’s wife, even if she was divorced form him, you eliminated any possibility of her coming back home and you destroyed the original family nucleus for the children forever.  If as a female you took another woman’s husband, it is the same thing.  They were not ‘free’, Jesus says, and they were certainly not yours to take.’  (Jesus On Marriage – pg. 175)

 

 

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