The Forgotten Option

Is a guide for individuals navigating troubled marriages, emphasizing the profound impact of commitment on personal well-being and the often unseen network of individuals dependent on a strong marital foundation.

1. ‘Just remember that divorce is not the end that people say it is.  In most cases it is a poor choice to make, but depending on the choices you make afterwards it is redeemable.’
(On Divorce – pg. 297)

2. ‘If they knew what it was that they were bringing upon themselves, when in frustration they started to destroy the tie that binds, I hope they would stop their collision course with heartbreak. . . take a rest until the true answer arrives.  And if they knew how much they would regret later on in life their decision to leave a marriage, I hope there would be more hearts willing to stay and be changed in the present moment.’
(Love – pg. 88)

3. ‘If we can agree that our children can exhibit the same behavior that marriage counselors would find difficult to condone in a marriage, why then would we keep a son or a daughter, but abandon a spouse for the same issues?  “It’s different,” I hear people say.  What?  Why?
(Our Need To Be Responsible – pg. 246)

4. ‘It is interesting that most people that haven’t been through divorce and the loss of a marriage think that both people wanted out.  It appears from the outside that there is such a thing as an amicable divorce most of the time, but these conditions are rare.  It is more commonly true than not, that for every person that left a marriage there is one that didn’t want them to go.’
(Love – pg. 83)

5. ‘If you took a man’s wife, even if she was divorced form him, you eliminated any possibility of her coming back home and you destroyed the original family nucleus for the children forever.  If as a female you took another woman’s husband, it is the same thing.  They were not ‘free’, Jesus says, and they were certainly not yours to take.’  (Jesus On Marriage – pg. 175)